Well, I just set myself up for a real shit-storm with that title. I don't know for sure the answer, I have no idea where letting go and complacency meet in an acceptable form. I get in trouble all of the time for not taking things seriously enough, and have been my entire life. Am I complacent or am I lazy or was I just born a natural yogi that has "letting go" down pat?
None of the above really. It is true that as far as being calm, relaxed and about as type D as one can get I'm your gal. It is not that I don't care about things, I just don't get worked up like many do. Much to a type A's chagrin. Friends moving...yes, I am sad...am I going to cry every day and lament...no. I just don't. Maybe I am lazy.
I like to think I am just great at letting go. However, that is only certain instances. I definitely can take a good bit of time going over stupid-shit-I-said-yesterday-syndrome. But for the biggies, I can relax, and take ease in the present. This reminds me of a story of a monk....
There was a monk that lived up alone in a monastery on a hill and once a girl in the town accused him of fathering her child. He of course had not, she was just trying to protect the fisherman that was in fact the baby daddy. Well, her father was furious and took the newborn up to the monastery and left the baby with the monk to raise. The monk's reaction was "Ah, so" He took the baby and raised him for nine years. After nine years the baby's mother was dying and finally revealed the natural father. Upon hearing that her parents were outraged and raced up the mountain to get the baby. As the monk opened the door to hand the child to his grandparents he said "Ah, so".
Whatever challenge was thrown in the face of this monk he accepted it and moved forward with it. He was so in the moment that nothing could get him down. That is true un attachment.
The great way not to get to caught up, is to not have preferences. As based on a teaching from the Third Chinese Patriarch: "The great way is not difficult for those who have no preferences." Just think about how easy everything would be if you didn't get caught up in what color something was, or having things "just so" How liberating! This is one of the reasons I think that I am so laid back. Of course I do have preferences but they just don't mean that much to me in the grand scheme of things. I am a lot easier to get along with than someone less flexible in the way they want things.
Blessed are thee that remain flexible, for they shall not get bent out of shape!